Thursday, December 30, 2010

Question:

Question:
I could use some feedback on this one folks. I'm not sure how to fully answer this one. So click the comment link right above this post and let me know your thoughts please.
Ok...now here’s the scenario....
Man and Woman get ready for bed. Woman is dressed attractively all day looking really cute! Man is thinking wow now this is looking good for later tonight. Woman is thinking..Hmm...wonder if I look ok? nothing is said...they climb into bed naked and snuggle. He's thinking..."I'm gonna do this for a bit, in a few minutes it will be worth it". Man thinks...gonna score me some points and says “It’s nice cuddling with you”. Woman thinks...Hmm....ok...wonder what’s up? rolls over cuddling more and falls asleep. Man thinks “What the heck? Thought this was going somewhere? Whatever”, rolls over and both go to bed with a bit of an attitude. Both thinking that the other is pissed.

I know my response....COMMUNICATION! LOL Just ask. “Hey, is something wrong?” And see what happens from there.
But I’m curious, what do you have to say on this? I would like to hear something from both sexes if possible. Is one right and one wrong? Maybe a little of both? Any tips, Similar situations?

5 comments:

  1. Communication is right. If I were in that situation, I would assume that he really didn't want to have sex so I would've probably done the same thing. My husband doesn't really pay the "smooth and cool" game like this guy was doing. If he wants it, it's very obvious. And same with me. Even just cuddling we know when one another wants it. I think it's a combination of communication and really knowing your partner.

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  2. I personally think it lies on the fact that both of the people in the relationship are not straightforward in what they want, or in this case, desire. There would be no stray thoughts whatsoever if they both told eachother like "hey, let's do stuff tonight."

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  3. I completely agree with what you two are saying. Thank goodness, for the most part my husband and I dont have this issue as well. But it HAS happened to us in the past. So I can totally relate to what is being said. Sadly it is common and fortunately it is an easy fix. Communication is key. If we don't say what we want....how can we expect someone else to know? Thats why it is so important to be in touch with our own bodies, wants, likes and dislikes, so that we can communicate them with those we care about. We should never assume that the other person knows or think that they should know by now. No one is a mind reader. ;0)

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  4. Communication need not be in words. Body language can be just as effective, even more so. The initiate-and-respond-accordingly rule could very well be applied in this sexy situation. :)

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  5. Very true as well. I think that the saying is something like.. 93% of human communication is non verbal. So there is no doubt that our body language speaks loudly at times. But...at the same time. Sometimes we are not aware of what our body language is saying about us. I have had people come up to me when I'm in deep thought or something like that and ask me what is wrong. And sometimes that question floors me because there wasn’t anything wrong....except....distraction.
    That’s why it is so important to be aware of your settings and situation. Keep distractions down to a minimum whenever possible during those intimate moments.

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